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SEX, LIES AND FEMINISM |
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| 3. The Anatomical Context of Rape |
It is quite obvious to me that most Feminists would be horrified at the thought that you could actually put rape into some kind of context, and find reasons for it. They would look at this as a way of trying to excusing it. And so it is, in a way.
If you think that men are bad and women are good, and women are always victims when heterosexual sexual activity takes place, and rape is always the man's fault, then you should read no further. This chapter is not for you.
As we saw in the chapter on equality, men and women are not in a symmetrical relationship with each other - and nowhere is that clearer than in the area of courtship and sex. We can start with the reciprocally non-symmetrical anatomy of men and women. Men and women do not have anatomy that is reciprocally symmetrical or identical. They have anatomies that are complementary to each other's.
Crudely put, and as we all know, men have an appendage (or you could call them two, or three appendages) that women don't have, and women have a cavity (actually, two cavities and two appendages) that men don't have. Men's appendage fits reasonably well into women's cavity, and this often gives both parties pleasure and can result in the birth of offspring - which is often a desired consequence of this fitting procedure.
Now, I am not an engineer - nor am I an expert on the Karma Sutra. However, it does seem to me that the mechanics of carrying out this fitting procedure are such that it is best carried out with the necessary force being applied from the appendage into the cavity, rather than from the cavity over the appendage. This is because the walls of the vagina often offer some resistance, which is actually important in providing pleasure to the parties. Also, the angle of the cavity is such that it is difficult for the woman to bring much force to bear on the process, unless she has something above her to hang onto. In addition, the angle of pressure has to be right, or the appendage might be damaged. So it is best for the owner of the appendage to determine the angle, because only he can instantly tell what is and is not the right angle, from the point of view of the vital appendage. |
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The crucial elements I want to draw out of the above description are that: 1) the sexual act is a joint endeavour; 2) pressure/force needs to be applied by the man; 3) resistance needs to be applied by the woman. So you can already see that rape is just actually a matter of degree. Indeed, far from disagreeing with Feminazis who scream "All Men Are Rapists", I actually agree with them. All men who carry out heterosexual sex are bound to use force against a resisting woman, and that probably comes under many definitions of rape. A man has a penis that must become errect for sex to take place, and the penis must be forced, yes forced into a small opening for intercourse to occur. These facts mean that the psychology of an aroused man must typically be very different from the psychology of an aroused woman.
Feminists who scream that rape is not a sexual act but an act of violence are wrong. The article "The Causes of Criminal Behaviour - why do they do it?" shows the contrary, as far as the testimony of rapists themselves is concerned.
In fact, arguing about whether rape involves sex or violence is missing the point. There is no real difference between a sexual act and an act of violence. The standard sexual act is an act of violence. Also, there is no definite line between pleasure and pain. These are sensory experiences, and some of these sensory experiences are clearly pleasurable, and some are clearly painful.
Quite a few experiences - especially during sex-play - are a bit painful and more than a bit pleasurable, at the same time. Sado-Masochism is merely at one end of a spectrum of sexual behaviours - it is not totally different from normal sex. We have words like "sex", "violence", "pleasure" and "pain", with which we divide the world into artificial concepts. Reality itself is amorphous. | |  |
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| 4. The Social Context of Rape |
| The different sexual behaviours of men and women are to some extent isomorphic with their different anatomies. In other words, it is biologically efficient for women to behave generally as passively during courtship as they do during sex itself. And it is biologically efficient for men to behave generally as aggressively during courtship as they do during the sex act itself. This is because women can apply the same sort of mind-set ("Let him make the moves"), and men can also apply the same sort of mind-set ("It's up to me to take the plunge") in both situations. Since all men are faced with the necessity of coping with frequent rejection or apparent indifference (and women are not), the survival of the species demands that men adopt a thick-skinned attitude to apparent rejection. Such rejection can be very traumatic at times - especially for adolescent males. So a man has to either put up with celibacy or learn how to be thick-skinned. There is only a thin line between such a mentality and the mentality of a rapist, and it is inevitable that this boundary will be crossed from time to time. |
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